Social Needs due Thursday 2/23

The first video I chose is about an eight year old kid who is a black belt in karate. The video is a story about the boy and his stunning achievements. This video demonstrates achievement, and more specifically, mastery. The boy has won numerous awards in karate and even teaches karate classes (at the age of 8!). He started learning karate at about the same time his dad did, and progressed a lot further in a shorter amount of time. He has mastered many karate tasks, which allows him to be successful. He is good at what he does, and has achieved a lot for his young age.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=32H1n87WgCM

The second video I chose is of the slam poet Taylor Mali speaking. He talks about teaching and how others tend to look down on it. Throughout the video, he gives examples of what teachers do. This video demonstrates power because Taylor Mali is very interested in impacting others. He wants to positively influence his audience and hopes that many of them will choose a career in teaching, in order to make the world a better place. He believes that teaching is the most important thing in the world.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RxsOVK4syxU

I do not watch Scrubs regularly, but I have seen a couple of episodes. This clip shows Turk and JD reuniting after Turk returns from his honeymoon. They are best friends, and that is clearly demonstrated in the clip. They are very excited to see each other, and Turk’s wife makes a comment after he runs off to meet JD. She says to the cab driver that maybe someday Turk will love her like he loves JD. This demonstrates intimacy because they are clearly in a warm and fulfilling relationship. They were equally excited to see each other, and their relationship is reciprocal. Also, if Turk’s new wife is wishing he loved her like he does JD, they clearly have a strong relationship. After running through the hospital, they eventually find each other. Their embrace at the end of the video was a little much for me, but I guess it worked for them.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTGv8xTByio

Affiliation is the opportunity to please others and gain their approval. This clip is my favorite out of the ones I have chosen for this assignment. It is from the movie Meet the Robinsons. In it, Goob helps out his roommate Louis with an invention. He helps Louis because he wants to gain his approval. Louis is always working on his inventions, and as a result, Goob does not get much sleep. Goob had a big baseball game the next day, and he was really tired. He missed the ball because he had fallen asleep. Goob was really upset about missing the ball because his need for affiliation (or competence for that matter) was not met. He wanted to please his teammates in order to fit in and feel like he belonged there. At the end of the clip, they show him missing the ball. His teammates gather around him and beat him up because in their eyes, he caused them to lose the game. Goob’s need for affiliation was not met at the baseball game.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pnmSWl6vHQY

The first clip I found demonstrates achievement. The clip is from a comedy video blog called “Cute Win Fail”. As the title implies, the videos that Toby Turner shows are clips were people “win” by doing something that society deems as valuable (aka, funny or cool) or “fail” when their attempt at doing something impressive or funny results in some type of embarrassment. The video clips go up against each other and the most “epic” video of the three wins. So not only are the videos themselves seeking to achieve the title as the most “epic”, which is determined by the viewer’s votes on which is the most entertaining, but the videos themselves are of people or animals achieving or failing (or being cute) at some task. In this particular clip, we see a man embarrass himself by hitting himself in the groin while doing a basketball stunt, a girl who casts her disobedient dog in a play, and a cute dancing parrot. You can find the clip at this link: http://youtu.be/CdfBiuHE6Zo.

The second social need is intimacy, or the need to form close relationships with others. I am a huge fan of the cute animal videos, so I found a video clip of a unique relationship between a puppy and a cat. In the video, we can see how attached this puppy is to an adult cat. They are seen cleaning each other, cuddling, and playing. To set the mood, the video is accompanied by a classic love ballade. This video demonstrates intimacy because it shows a reciprocal, loving relationship between two beings. You can find the video clip at this link: http://youtu.be/ytedC1heY_8.

The third social need is affiliation, or the need positive relationships with others. This need is different from intimacy because it is deficiency-oriented, which can result in it being perceived as negative or “needy”. One way people can fulfill their affiliation need is by joining groups or by being surrounded by like-minded people. For this reason, I found a video clip of a flash mob. This particular flash mob is the student union on Oklahoma State’s campus. The video can be found at this link: http://youtu.be/HDNOB6TnHSI.

The final social need is power ,which is described as the desire to make the physical and social world conform to one’s personal image or plan for it. What better model for the need for power is there but a super villain? That is why I choose the movie trailer for “Despicable Me”. Gru, who is the evil villain, is obsessed with capturing the moon. To help him with his evil plot, he orders around his little minions. This shows his need to control his environment. The clip can be found at this link: http://youtu.be/0mqUMQfKmg0

The first video that I looked at was a video of the Nathan’s Hot Dog Eating Contest. In the video Joey Chestnut beat his rival from Japan and set a new record for most hot dogs eaten. This is a good example of achievement because Joey has worked hard for years to be his rival and here he finally accomplishes it and sets a record while doing it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_V-2NKUlzns

The second video that I looked at was the Tiger Woods confession video. I used think this can be an example of affiliation because he had good relationships, and then he screwed them up and now he is trying to build them back up by trying to say he is sorry.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xs8nseNP4s0

The next video is a clip from the show The Mentalist and Wayne Rigsby and Grace Van Pelt are dating but then they are told they can’t date because they are on the same unit, but they are still sneaking around behind everyone else’s backs. These is an example of intimacy because they are in love with each other and aren’t letting people get in their way to show each other how they feel.

http://www.youtube.com/watchv=s1njD4RTtW8&feature=related

For a video on power, I decided to use a speech by Kirk Cousins. Kirk Cousins is the quarterback for Michigan State University and he was asked to speech at a luncheon on the behalf of all Big Ten Athletes.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tp15N9BbYgY

This clip is a pieced together strip of two events in the movie “Talladega Nights”. It shows Ricky Bobby getting his chance to fulfill his child hood dream of becoming a NASCAR driver and making an impact. From there we see him winning a race a few years or months later showing that he has maintained and expanded his power. When he quotes “If you ain’t first, you’re last” this shows his need for dominance, reputation, and status as a NASCAR driver. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_isgXzxIa24

Just like the clip above this is yet another clip from “Talladega Nights”. In this clip we have Bobby talking to his arch rival, Jean Girard. They are shown walking in Girard’s backyard and Girard explains to Bobby why he came to America. That reason was to be beaten by a driver that is truly better then himself and only then can his partner and him proceed to fulfill their wishes of becoming trainers. This shows a perfect example of achievement, Girard was energized enough to come all the way to America to put his pride on the line and challenge one of the world’s best drivers just to see if he himself (Girard) could be beaten. Demonstrating his high cognitive influences both in persistence and performance. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ls96s8ej4wI

In this clip we have a young gentleman who just lost his love who is moving away for a better job offer, leaving him heartbroken and alone. So he calls up a girl he knows that we find out has feelings for him but is unsure if he is over his most recent break up. Within this clip we can see both affiliation and intimacy. The guy who’s girl just left him, is feeling the negative aspects of fear and loneliness. So he calls up this girl to try and re-establish, maintain, and restore some kind of relationship though the acceptance of this new girl, to secure his interpersonal relations. At the same time this new girl is fulfill her intimacy needs by engaging in a warm, close, and positive relation with the guy. She is feeling the fear of interpersonal rejection, she is unsure if he is over his last love enough to maintain a relationship with her. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crPHQlD7CsY

Achievement:
I believe this first video definitely an example of achievement, and it definitely relates to my life as well, which is why I know it is an example of achievement. This video shows two women finishing up a marathon, but at the end of the race their legs start to cramp up and give it. Both of them fell to the ground. Yet, both of the women did this best to make it to the end and finish the race (even if they did crawl). This is definitely achievement. I am a runner and if I fell to the ground during a race I would be horrified and probably not finish the race. These women wanted to achieve greatness and get through the finish line, which is exactly what they did. I think this is an example of ‘success in competition with a standard of excellence’ (which was from the book). This could also relate to Atkinson’s Model in that the probably of success depends on each person. For instance, maybe one of the women had been training for this race for months, while the other just started working out a couple weeks before. It just depends on the person.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p1UvxxYIv3U

Power:
This next clip that I found has to do with the topic of power. The reason I found this clip was because it relates to the book that I am reading for our book report. This is the trailer for the movie ‘Sleeping with the Enemy.’ This clip shows scenes for a movie where the main character (Julia Roberts) is trying to escape from her obsessive, abusive husband, and how she runs away. It also shows how he is trying to find out and get her back. You can see in the clip that this is definitely an example of power, but maybe not the same type of power we have been discussing or that I have been writing about in my blogs. Roberts’s husband is an obsessive and abusive husband who needs to have power over her at all times. Even after Roberts runs away, changes her name and starts a new life she is still being controlled and dominated, even thought he is not there. She lives every day in fear and paranoia. According to the text, high power individuals strive to take force and control over others, and this is exactly what Roberts husband is trying to do, if he is with her or not. The book also relates power to aggressiveness, which is another thing we can see in the clip (and definitely the movie if anyone has seen it). He is psychically and mentally abusive to her and other people as well while trying to find out where she went.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ombLA8Gqbpk

Intimacy & Affiliation:
The third clip that I have chosen represents both intimacy and affiliation. This clip is the movie trailer for ‘Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants,” and yes I still do really enjoy this movie! The clip shows multiple scenes from the movie and how it related to affiliation and intimacy. The scene from this clip that I definitely related to this topic would be when all of the girls come back together with the ‘lucky’ pair of pants, that for some reason fits all of them perfectly even though they are all different sizes (sounds a little stupid, I know). These girls are showing intimacy in the fact that they all have an extremely close bond/relationship with each other. They all care about each other a lot, and look out for each other. Just because they are not physically or sexually intimate doesn’t mean they are not experiencing intimacy. These girls are there for each other in many different aspects of life, the good and bad. When talking about affiliation, this movie relates in a way similar to intimacy. These girls have personal relationships with one another. They have been friends since high school and continue that throughout their college experiences, and always end up back to each other. There are also other scenes from this clip that she one of the girls with her fiancé, and another with her mother. These can all be categorized by affiliation and intimacy, but they are just in different ways/styles.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nlFayW-dVwA

Power-
This video was brought to my attention by a classmate of mine. In the video a father berates his teenage daughter for writing horrible things about him on Facebook that he found after warning her before to not write anything like it again. He goes through her rant and tells her how good she has it, that now she will not have it so easy, and that she is grounded forever. He then proceeds to shoot her laptop with his handgun! This man clearly had his authority undermined by his daughter and now he is reestablishing it by taking drastic action.
Achievement-
After watching all of the slow mo guy’s videos I chose this one because it was their one year anniversary. It gives you short clips in regular time of what they slowed down to 2000 frames per second throughout the year. My personal favorite is the giant water balloon that wouldn’t break until they had two guys jump on it. It was so cool that they could drop off of a tree onto it and it still wouldn’t break! Regardless, clearly these guys had a need for achievement, particularly performance-goal because they would continually do shots to get just the right slow-mo take, even if that meant sticking their fingers in a mouse/rat trap. Another goal they achieved was that they lasted a whole year making these videos! Hurray! I hope they keep them coming.
Intimacy-
The most recent show I’ve been watching has been Castle which is about a murder mystery writer, Richard Castle, who is shadowing a NY homicide detective, Kate Beckett. In the scene above their captain had just been killed in order to save many members of his crew, including Castle and Beckett. Now, like any good show there is a love interest between the lead characters. They have refused to acknowledge this but they do care a lot for each other mutually and theirs is a warm growing relationship, though not officially yet, it technically is intimate. So naturally Beckett gets shot and passes out and Castle finally lets her know how he feels about her. Luckily she survives for season 4.
Affiliation-
The above clip displays a baby monkey riding backwards on a pig which has sparked the annoying and addicting song playing in the background. I thought that this was an excellent example of affiliation being a deficit driven motive/behavior. As soon as the monkey falls off the pig he immediately freaks out and chases down the pig again. This accurately depicts individuals who have a high social need for affiliation; they get stressed when they don’t get it and are even anxious when they do have others around. In the end it is a catchy song with a cute baby monkey riding backwards on a pig, baby monkey.

Thumbs Up For Rock and Roll: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eaIvk1cSyG8. This video demonstrated the social need of achievement. In this video this little boy has just learned to ride a bike and did it successfully. He demonstrated the desire to do well to achieve a standard of excellence. Riding the bike challenged his competence but in the end he discovered he could do it so it was a successful outcome. You can see this when the boy says, "I feel happy of myself." He was very emotional about it in a joyful way which made the event even greater in his eyes. That was a huge accomplishment for him and he uses that emotion to push others into riding bikes as well. "Thumbs up everybody...for rock and roll!"

Peter in the Park: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtkU2ch0sRI. This video demonstrated the social need of affiliation. In this video Tracey is trying to win her man back (Peter) by accidentally running into him in the park. Apparently he is with another woman at this time so Tracey had to "look good" wearing her push-up bra and dye her hair with kool-aid to look more sophisticated. While this video is hilarious it does show that Tracey wants to reestablish or restore her relationship with Peter to escape negative feelings like isolation and loneliness. She was very persistent so I assume she still has strong feelings for Peter. While parts of this could be categorized under intimacy, I believe the bulk of this video demonstrates her need to be wanted and to reject the anxiety Peter is causing her to feel since they split up.

Disney's Sleeping Beauty: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_aY7FXpoJCE&noredirect=1. This video demonstrated the social need of power. In this video Maleficent is the evil witch/sorcerer that kidnaps and tries to kill Aurora, a princess, because she was not invited to the christening. Maleficent has the desire to make the physical and social world conform to her own personal image of it (complete domination of the kingdom, maybe?). She is striving for that leadership position among the trolls and other creatures and in turn that means she will lead over all the kingdom as well. While this is not necessarily a positive source of power, it does show us the same concepts only in a more negative way.

Marshall and Lily, How I Met Your Mother: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dO8tT4ApJwY&feature=related. This video demonstrated the social need of intimacy. This video is kind of a bunch of clips put together from multiple shows but it gives the audience a good idea of what Marshall and Lily's relationship is like: intimate. They both have a social motive for engaging in that warm, close and positive relationship. The majority of the time it does produce positive emotions and isn't a threatening thing in their lives. Even though they do fight at times their love is greater than the argument and they want to continue to be together despite it.

This first video called "I Like You", is an example of the social need intimacy. The two people in this clip explain the things they like about each other and their relationship. They then show clips of other people or couples saying how it's either dumb that they just say "like" instead of love and others think it's cute. Towards the end of the video, the man told his girlfriend that he basically was over liking her, instead loves her, then proceeds to ask for her engagement, awww. The two people in the short film are satisfying their need for intimacy. They have an established relationship where they know a lot of the little things about each other and use positive adjectives for each other. The engagement is an example of their growth-oriented motive for their relationship. It is clear to the audience that these people have a high need for intimacy that has been satisfied, because throughout the film, besides saying I like you, you can see the couple laughing, smiling, and touching each other. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5H2q-Xfp4s&feature=player_embedded

This next video would be an example of power. The video is a mockery of the republican candidates up for election this year and shows a fake Einstein competing against the others. The candidates all must have a high need for power because they need an occupation that holds a high power. The Einstein guy tries to gain support by saying he would legalize everything in order to try to conform the public's views into his own. This is an example of the books variables for presidential effectiveness. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Urx21kpsB40&feature=player_embedded

This next clip is a trailer for the movie "Bully". The movie is about a young boy who took his own life because he wasn't socially accepted by his peers and how his parents set out to make a difference in other kid's lives who are going through the same thing. The boy who was being bullied had a high need for affiliation, but because of bullying, his needs were not met. He needed to feel approval, acceptance, and security within friends, and as much as he tried the other students were still picking on him. This demonstrates what a powerful effect affiliation has on a person, if one doesn't feel like they belong or accepted, it may push the person to take their own life. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rAxBpu5d4PU&feature=player_embedded#!

This last video covers the social need of achievement. It's about a 100year old woman who plays nintendo in order to keep her mind active. Playing this new technology is a difficult task at her age, but she adopts a mastery goal in order to overcome the challenge. She mentioned that normally she would forget things the next day, and by playing nintendo it helped significant;y, which is example of the mastery goal of making progress and working hard. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RWpV15R163o&feature=player_embedded

I started this assignment by “browsing” youtube as suggested and had little luck. So instead I took from movies and videos I already had knowledge of and took examples from there.
The first video is actually a song from the movie “Tangled.” In the video Rapunzel’s mother is singing to her, telling her reasons to not leave her tower. Rapunzel has never left her tower and wishes to see the world. Rapunzel’s mother has a high need for power. She controls Rapunzel and gets anxious when her daughter brings up leaving the tower. The book describes someone with a high need for power as having the desire to “impact, control, or influence over another person, group, or the world at large.” Rapunzel’s mother wants to have complete power over each move Rapunzel makes. However, her need to control is detrimental to her daughter’s development. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fi8kYcl2Y38

The second video I picked is a trailer for “The Sandlot.” The sandlot is a movie about a young boy who has recently moved and is in need of new friends. He finds himself trying to interact with a group of kids who play baseball. Scotty has a high need for affiliation, and is looking to satisfy that need by joining the group of boys. He fears they will reject him, which they do at first. He does things, such as stealing his step father’s baseball, to become a part of the group. He pleases them and does little to stand up for himself because he just wants to fit in. Initially when he begins associating with the boys he feels relief that he has joined a group so his mother and step father will stop bothering him about making friends. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-QDq-e1GbjE

The third clip I chose is from the movie “Jack”. This movie follows the life of a boy Jack who has a genetic condition that makes him physically grow at a very fast rate; much so that is this clip, at his high school graduation, he appears to be in his seventies. The reason I chose this clip is to demonstrate the need for achievement. Jack was a boy born with a lot going against him. However Jack is able to fight the odds and be successful in life. This show that Jack has a high need for achievement. He knows that he isn’t going to live long but chooses to perform well and build competency just to fulfill his own needs. We see in the clip Jack is graduating from high school. For anyone, graduation is a great accomplishment that requires a lot of intrinsic motivation. Not only does he graduate, but he is the valedictorian; something that cannot be achieved without mastery goals and a desire to be an intelligent, well skilled individual. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_HuEkCUZOR0&feature=related

The final clip I chose is from one of my favorite movies, “The Holiday.” This clip is from the beginning of the movie where we are introduced to two different women who are having trouble with love. The woman I want to focus on is Kate Winslet’s character who demonstrates a high need for intimacy. I understand intimacy is not just about love in a dating relationship, but that’s what this video happens to focus on. Anyways, Iris is an individual who long for an intimate relationship with her coworker. She wants to build a loving, caring, warm relationship with Jasper. Iris is someone who listens and engages in deep conversation as we can see through her interaction with Jasper. She remembers the little things, like the book she gave Jasper for Christmas, and has genuine concern for others throughout the rest of the movie. This all shows that she values interpersonal interactions, a trait of someone with a need for intimacy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xlT5oeuk7UE

Achievement

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdPQ3QxDZ1s&feature=related

This video demonstrates the need for achievement very well. We all think of Michael Jordan as the best basketball player that has ever played the game, but he didn’t get there based on chance. Michael Jordan has a high need for achievement, meaning he had a strong desire to do well and be excellent. He was performance-approached and wanted to do well for himself. Since his need for achievement was so high, he made sure to practice and do whatever it took to achieve to standard of excellence that he desired. This video is a good example of how his hard work and strong needs paid off and made him the amazing basketball player he was and always will be.

Intimacy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R71UQFWk4E8

This video demonstrates intimacy between a couple. It is apparent that the boy and girl both share a high need for intimacy because they are so secure in their relationship that they do not let the public stop them from expressing their intimate feelings. They have a warm relationship that holds little threat of rejection because they are both so into one another. I believe this video was taken in Europe which would make sense because Europeans have different views when it comes to intimacy and seem to have a much higher need, or show that at least.

Power

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZNYmK19-d0U

I chose to look up a video of Obama speaking to represent the need for power. Being the president of the United States is the single most powerful position in the country. Obama has a high need for power which is needed in order to make it all the way to the top and control a country. He is a leader and has the need and desire to have an impact on others. This video is a speech he gave after catching Osama Bin Laden which was a task that has been attempted for years. Being able to be the president that succeeded proves that his need for power was high.

Affiliation

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pvx-q2Hadxo

When I read the definition of affiliation, the need to please others and gain their approval, I instantly think of the term ‘suck-ups.’ I think I have this strong instinctive feeling because my own need for affiliation is so low. I think it is important to please and be pleased with yourself before you can do the same for others. This video pokes fun at suck-ups and just shows that people will do whatever it takes to fit in for have people like them and will go to drastic of comical ways to do that.

This video, and a lot of the other “am I ugly” videos show people with a high need for affiliation. They seem very needy and their high need is shown by showing pictures of themselves and asking what people think of them. They are trying to calm anxieties and monitor whether others approve or approve of them by the comments people leave. They have a insecurity about themselves for whatever reason, and want approval from strangers across the country about their physical appearance. These videos make me so sad, most of these girls are so young, and still need this approval from so many other people. Some of these videos have millions of views, and get comments that are encouraging, but some are so hurtful and disguisting. The point of these videos was so they could hear from others that they are pretty and to avoid negative emotions such as loneliness and disapproval. This particular video, because it is about being pretty or ugly, could almost be a need for intimacy too, but I see more of the need for affiliation here.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8D9mqqkgH-0a
This next video is a good example for the need for intimacy. These two girls found a letter from a guy to a girl who has a boyfriend. It is pretty funny because of the way the girl is reading it, even mentioning the grammatical errors, but it shows how desperate he is because she has a boyfriend. He has a strong desire to be in a strong interpersonal relationship with this girl. He talks about kissing her and holding her and he cries for her, and wants this feeling to be reciprocal. This is a bit dramatic of an example, but it is a perfect example of a very high need for intimacy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UM2U6zGN8nM
This next video of cult leader Jim Jones(from the movie) talking to people about how marriages aren’t allowed and some other BS rules he gave as a cult leader. This shows his extremely high need for power. He has the desire for making the physical and social world of his “people” conform to his image of it. He strived for leadership and people listened to him. He talked 900 people into drinking kool aid and committing suicide, a very influential leader. He experienced frequent impulses of aggression.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TT4tYpFNQrc
the need for achievement was pretty easy to find on youtube, simply because there are millions of people videotaping themselves doing things for others to see them doing it well. There are how to videos and videos of people just doing things to show others they did it. They choose moderately difficult tasks and put themselves on the internet doing it for others to see. Here are a few different clips of peoples need and high need for achievement.
How to change a car battery:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Im9iPQ2NY3I
How to start a garden:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eir1MwLnhJU
and even how to French braid your own bangs!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KLN5w_G9TwI

The video I found for intimacy is a wedding proposal. The guy makes a video trailer, to play at the movie she is at, of him asking her dad for permission for her hand in marriage. All the while someone is recording her live reaction. He talks about how much he loves her and this displays the intimacy they have between them. He wants to have a long-term committed relationship with her. With her saying “yes” they fulfill their need of intimacy. Here is the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pnVAE91E7kM
I found a video to show the need for power. Seniors in high school, in this video, talk about how to intimidate the freshman. They have a high need to control others. The seniors show they have power over the freshman. Here is the video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QyRvsYEyPxw
The Big Bang Theory had a clip on www.youtube.com about an equation to be able to make friends. This shows that Sheldon has a high need for affiliation. He really wants to find common interests with people to fill the need to belong. The link is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0xgjUhEG3U
The American Idol finale of 2008 clip displayed achievement. David Cook starts to cry and shows what an accomplishment it was to work so hard and make it to the end and win. He proved his abilities to America every week through singing. The link to this clip is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h616-b0pKPw

AFFILIATION- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zkf5SSdfQYA
This is a bonus clip from the show “New Girl.” It is an introduction video for a dating website, done of one of the characters, Schmidt. This video shows Schmidt’s need for affiliation. He is trying very hard to impress whoever watches the video. It appears that his character went through a lot of work to impress the people on the dating website, and hopefully gain the approval of a woman.
POWER-http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qRpQAErm3wo
This clip from Modern Family shows Clair’s struggle for power. She is trying to get the whole family to work together to put on a wonderful Halloween. Everyone else in the family has other stuff going on and isn’t has concerned. The clip ends with Claire telling the family that it may be a crazy holiday, but it is HER holiday. She is willing to put up with her family and all the chaos that follows them, as long as she can be in charge of Halloween, and she can have the power.
INTIMACY- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2IeX5dwJAfQ&feature=related
The notebook is a movie all about the need for intimacy. Noah starts this clip by saying, “It’s gonna be hard.” By stating that he knows and is expecting their relationship to have rough patches, he shows just how much he wants to have a warm and secure relationship with Allie.
ACHIEVEMENT- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yKL5SJLCchs
I think what makes this clip about achievement is what Rachel says as soon as she walks in. She says, “Good, you guys are all here!” It is obvious that she has good news, and she wants to tell her friends about it. Rachel was given an interview at ralph Lauren and she was very proud of herself. She was also very excited to tell her friends about this achievement.

The first video I chose demonstrates affiliation. It’s a clip from that 70’s show where the gang is sitting the basement and trying to come up with plans for Halloween. Affiliation is the process of establishing, maintaining and/or restoring a positive, affective relationship with another person or persons. This is demonstrated by everyone participating in the conversation, making comments (whether they are smart-ass or respectable), and effectively brainstorming. I think by people making smart-ass comments to each other, this demonstrates a sense of close friendship where everyone feels comfortable enough to do that.

Clip 1: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBB6ls0vEA8

The second video I chose demonstrates intimacy. It’s a clip from that 70’s show where Donna is at the radio station with Eric and they are discussing the issue of whether or not she should wear a bikini for a certain promotion with her boss and co-worker. Donna is not comfortable showing that much skin just for her job. Her boss fires her and Eric sticks up for Donna. Intimacy is demonstrated through interpersonal concern, caring, warmth and commitment, emotional connectedness and love. I think Eric sticking up for Donna definitely demonstrates intimacy.

Clip 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2s9f9hBLOKc

The third video I chose demonstrates power. It’s a clip from that 70’s show where Red is doing bed checks. He previously caught Eric smoking weed so he felt the need to demonstrate power by intruding into his room without permission. Power is the desire for making the physical and social world conform to one’s personal image for it. High-power-need individuals strive for leadership and recognition in small groups, experience frequent impulses and aggression.
Clip 3: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&NR=1&v=kXZwQcyxg2o

The fourth video I chose demonstrates achievement. It’s a clip from that 70’s show where the Forman family plus Hyde are at the dinner table and Eric “burns” Lori. Lori is giving Hyde a hard time and calling him a free loader because he is currently living in their house, but not providing anything for the family. Achievement is the desire to do well relative to a standard of excellence. This clip demonstrates achievement because Eric is trying to excel as a friend by sticking up for Hyde. Yet, he is also trying to excel by talking back to his sister Lori so she seems less inferior.

Clip 4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UThkp61-dLw&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XPS-ygfFWCM
My first video is of Lance Armstrong and his greatest moment in cycling. This displays achievement because Lance has done what no other cycler in the history of cycling and won the most prestigious bike race The Tour De France, 7 times. Lance also battled cancer and almost died, but came back to the sport even stronger than he left. This clip just shows how he achieved so much in his career as a professional cyclist.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aF4CWCXirZ8
My second video is from the Lion King and it is when Simba and Nala are falling in love. Since the animals take on human personalities in this movie it is showing how two individuals need intimacy. This clip shows them being playful and then becoming more serious and falling in love, and by the end of the song they are together and later end up having a family together.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1--l_Tv9zA
This clip displays affiliation. This is from the show The Bachelor, and it was a girl who constantly needed reassurance because of her anxiety about being rejected. I watched this season, and it always annoyed me how high her need was for affiliation. This clip gets to her anxiety towards the end when she is needing reassurance that he feels the same way, and ultimately this lead to her getting dumped.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xjmjtOnDyYs
The final video is for power. This is a clip from Elf, when the boss of a big story company comes to the office. This man is a midget, so he over compensates and tries to assert his power. He is clearly interested in status when he names off all of his material possessions and houses that he owns. He is also very bossy when it came to the temperature of the car he was picked up in, and turned them down initially because of the lack of respect that he received. He may have been small but he asserted his power to be intimidating.

The first video I looked at is an example of achievment. I looked at the video of the 2010 Winter Olympics in ice skating. Yu Na Kim was crowned ice skating champion of the winter olympics. This shows achievment because she has been working hard her entire career. She was the junior olympic champion in 2005, and continued to grow and work hard. You can see in the performance on her face and technique how much she dedicates her life to ice skating and it appears that she loves performing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFMDlrHmdMw

Affiliation is rooted in a fear of interpersonal rejection. People need affiliation for establishing, mainting a positive relationship. I chose a clip from the movie "Mean Girls" when all four of the girls are on the phone with someone at some point. They take different views and talk about the other one when on the phone. This shows affiliation, because they all want Regina to like them and to accept them because she is considered the most "popular" girl in school. They just talk bad about whoever and do whatever Regina asks to please her and to be accepted. They don't know anyone really outside of their group so they have a fear of rejection and being lonely.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=awow8HpWNcg&feature=related

Intimacy expresses the need for being loved, in a long lasting relationship with a partner,friends and family. I chose the music video by Lee Brice, "A Woman Like You" He is telling his girlfriend of all the things he could be doing if he hadn't met her, like fishing, golfing, hanging out with his friends and eating a lot more fried chicken. But than he tells her that she is more important by saying he sucks at golfing, fishing is boring and her chicken is much better. It shows how he would give anything for this woman, the love of his life. It shows that these two are very much in love and have high ratings in intimacy, and it is being fulfilled.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbAp5nphTz4

The last social need is power. Power is the desire to make the physcial and social world conform to someones own personal image.I chose a clip from the classic Disney movie, "Cinderella." In this scene it is when the mother and the step sisters ruin Cinderella's beautiful dress becuase of jealousy and because they can. They do this to control Cinderlla and to manipulate her in thinking she is not worthy of going to the ball. This shows the need for power with the sisters and the mother because they do not want Cinderella to gain control or get anything that is above them because they feel they are better than her. To keep their power they have her do chores and ruin her dress.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbAp5nphTz4

The first need I found a video for was power. I could easily come up with instances of all the needs (except for perhaps intimacy) but power is a HUGE part of it. I picked a Toddlers and Tiaras clip. As much as I hate the show, it fascinates me that people's minds actually function this way. Anyway, I see displays of power needs coming from both the mom and the daughter, Karmen, in this clip. The mom spray tans Karmen and Karmen starts crying, saying she doesn't want it, and the mom tells her to quit whining and continues telling the cameraman "oh, Karmen loves it, I know she does". To me, it seems like she's trying really hard to control the environment in her home by making Karmen go through unpleasant things in order to "look her best". It also seems that the mom in trying to influence the viewer by continually repeating that she's doing this all for Karmen because the girl "loves it" and "wants to do pageants". Karmen also says that her mother is the one who does all her hair and makeup because she wants her to look her best. This is another power play that the mother is trying for. She wants to have complete control over what happens at the pageant, even though it's for the girl. She does the dance moves out in the audience right along with her daughter and gets upset when Karmen messes up. She wants the crown/title/whatever to display that her daughter is the winner because then SHE gets the crown/title/etc as well. The winnings from the pageant are prestige possessions for the girl and the mother. The ultimate goal is to get them, and they can show their power by displaying such things.
Power clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORcBTC7TiVY

For achievement, I found a short clip of a kid fainting at a spelling bee and STILL getting up to spell the word. I think it's nuts for a lot of reasons. Mostly because nobody got up to catch or help him, but also because his need to prove his competence and spell the word correctly is super high. Any reasonable person would understand if he exited the stage, got some water, and just chilled. I mean, he's a little kid, it's be cruel to force him to stay up there when something is overwhelming enough to make him faint. I don't know if it's nerves or the heat or what, but fainting is generally a sign that the brain can't handle something. This kid's need for achievement is high enough that, in this moment, it outranks his biological needs. If the kid is that young and smart enough to be in competitions spelling out words I've never even heard of, part of his need for achievement is likely socialized into him from a very early age. He's grown up knowing that being really good at something is what he wants to do. He's oriented towards mastery and strongly values doing well. If he wasn't, he could have used the fainting spell as a valid excuse out of the spelling bee without anyone thinking less of him for doing it.
Achievement clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06JUfkiMOVc

So, my room mate and I just saw The Vow, so I had to work that into this post too c: I just grabbed the trailer for it, because it gives the general idea of the movie well enough. I initially went to the movie because I was all "Sweet, retrograde amnesia, we're totally talking about this in Intro, I can use it to reference to so my students understand better". I know it's a movie, but since it's based on a true story of a woman who went through the same thing (and never regained her memory but ended up with her original husband anyway) I figure it works. Leo, the husband, is obviously trying to fill his intimacy need, and the energy and drive behind his actions are so strong because he had his need completely fulfilled and suddenly he didn't any more. His need is so great that it's more like a pain to him, and the only way to fix it is by making Paige fall in love with him again. He continually tries to regain the closeness and warmth through the innocent, automatic touches and things he used to do, but she doesn't respond to them in the same way any more. The need is strengthened by the rejection and loneliness he feels when his wife wakes up and thinks he is her doctor. There are a lot more examples from the movie, but I don't want to go and spoil all of it, because it's totally worth seeing.
Intimacy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8swF2-R6X9A

The last clip I chose was one of the It Gets Better clips. This girl, Lizzie, is speaking out against bullying, and this clip speaks really strongly about people's needs for affiliation in a couple ways. The first is the affiliation needs of the bullies. People bully because it gives them a 'group' to belong to as far as affiliation is concerned. I know there's power needs and such in there, but I'm just gonna focus on affiliation for this one. There wouldn't be as many issues with bullying if it was something that almost nobody did. People want in with a group, that group has a target or targets that they pick on, the person adopts said behaviors in order to belong. The second way this is about affiliation is that it speaks to those who are being bullied, who probably don't have a lot of interpersonal relationships. Lizzie says several times "you're not alone", which is very comforting to people. People with high-affiliation needs fear rejection and suffer from a lot of anxiety from it, and by telling the people watching the video that they're not alone and they deserve better, she's basically saying that she accepts them, other people will accept them, and that they should stand up for themselves. She reassures them that they're socially valuable. Affiliation is deficit-oriented as a need, and the people she's speaking towards are more than likely experiencing a deficit in affiliation.
And it's just an awesome clip.
Clip 4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIr3mlNINmg&feature=related

This assignment was a tricky one. I had to do some searching to find videos that worked for this. So, I hope they can be appreciated and be found to have the social needs we've learned about.

First, I'll start off with achievement. Which actually could be called mastery in this video or a high level of competence. The guy in this video has a desire to be one of the fastest typist ever. He even has an advanced keyboard to help him type faster. In this clip, the typist challenges everyone to a typing challenge. He says he is the fastest ever and no one can beat him. This is related to achievement because the man strives to be the best at what he does. He is motivated by the competition and feels a sense of pride knowing that he can type faster than most people.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HA71Y1jttSc&feature=b-mv

Intimacy is the social need I'm trying to target in the next video. This clip is kind of up in the air because it involves wildlife. However, in the video, Kevin Richardson has created a close bond with lions in his wildlife reserve. Even though this includes animals, Kevin is still displaying intimacy. If he didn't have some sort of strong relationship with these animals, they would eat him! That is if they haven't already ate him and I just missed that video. You can see that the lions have a strong relationship with him in the video just by watching how they act.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-kjWBgA81LM

Power. Power comes off as something that is a bad trait/need. It can be bad if someone becomes too concerned with it. However, power can be displayed in a healthy, friendly manor. Take our nations presidents for example, and most recently, Obama. In this video, you will see the inauguration of President Barack Obama. Obama shares his different plans that he has for the United States in this video. People elected him because they are supporters of his ideas and how he wants to run things. Voters of Obama are ok with him being in power, thus being able to influence how people live their lives.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3PuHGKnboNY

The last and final need to be shown is affiliation. This video clip is from the film, "Rudy". I feel like this is a great clip for this social need and really does a good job explaining affiliation visually. Rudy wants to be a part of Notre Dames' fighting Irish football team. Rudy wants to belong to something and is willing to work very hard to get there. By making the team, he will be affiliated with the team. Each teammate of his will give him respect and support just because he is part of the team. He is a part of them, a part of the team. Almost could be called part of a brotherhood. Teammates have an unconditional relationship with each other.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4tPpqfdt9Y

When thinking of these four social needs, Disney movies demonstrate each of these in pretty much every movie. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0AiN8vrn9Y This clip demonstrates power. Scar is the leader of the hyenas and wants more power. We have all seen The Lion King; Scar is Mufasa's younger brother, so he will never be king. Simba will be Mufasa's successor. To become king, Scar has to kill Mufasa and Simba. Scar uses intimidation methods to get the hyenas to do what he wants because he is a lion and they are hyenas; they are lower on the food and social chain that he is. He also promises them that "they will never go hungry again" if he is king. He is bribing them to do his dirty work to achieve power.
The next Disney movie that demonstrates achievement is Mulan. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZSS5dEeMX64&feature=endscreen&NR=1 One of the most known songs, I'll Make a Man Out of You, shows not only Mulan's progress and achievement, but Yao, Ling, and Chien-Po's as well. In the beginning of the video, all of the soldiers are unable to climb this pole; the start of training. It showed Mulan pretty much failing at everything in the training. Yao has to run across a field while dodging arrows on fire, but he caught on fire. Ling tries to break a cement piece with his head, but does not succeed. Mulan is martial arts fighting again Shang and ends up with a black eye. Chien-Po does not know how to swim so he stops suddenly when crossing on the wood poles in the water. Shang, the leader tells Mulan to go home, because he could not make a man out of her. But she sees the pole and so she worked really hard to reach the achievement of reaching the top. She had some fall backs, she falls on her butt, she slides down, but eventually she reaches the top and throws the arrow down to Shang. This marks the start of achievement for Mulan and the other soldiers. They are able to master everything and succeeded where they have failed in the past.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cS8C92Yi7Zo&feature=related The next video shows affiliation, or a lack of affiliation. Ariel from The Little Mermaid has many gadgets from the world above and is fascinated with it. She wants to explore, wants to be with the people, talk to the people, and live the life of the two-legged people. And to satisfy her need of affiliation with the world above, she wants to go and live the life a person. Ariel feels that the people up above would understand her better than her father. Ariel feels that her father, other mermaids and sea creatures do not relate to her and her fascination with the world above.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sVxUUotm1P4&feature=endscreen&NR=1 The last social need, intimacy is shown in Aladdin's A Whole New World. Before getting on the magic carpet, Aladdin asks Jasmine if she trusts him and she said yes. Trust is important in an intimate relationship. Aladdin wants to earn her trust and start a warm, close, intimate relationship with Jasmine. Aladdin shows her new things and wants to share the experiences with her. In the end of the video, Aladdin and Jasmine hold hand and she lays her head on his shoulder; a very intimate thing to do.
TERMS: social needs, power, achievement, affiliation, intimacy

Achievement: (both of the following clips are of child prodigy violinists) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rv5YpnWNvws
For achievement I actually searched for the clip by looking for videos of child prodigies. Clearly the boy in the film has a high need for achievement as he is in the street playing for an audience and reward. He has achieved a lot to be able to perform in a way that he is playing the violin so well, especially since he probably isn’t even a teen yet. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GEOZ31HeZT4&NR=1&feature=endscreen this second clip is perhaps an even better example as the girl is 7 and performing on a stage and has undoubtedly won awards for her performance. Part of the need for achievement in the case of both violinists is the drive for mastery. Clearly they worked to master their abilities to play their instrument. With the 7 year old girl she works to master that specific piece of music. I’m sure it required great time commitment and incredible amounts of work. The mastery allows them to be successful. With the boy on the street he could measure his achievement in the money that he earns and the 7 year old girl in the applause of the audience (among other reinforcers for both children-perhaps they get a personal high and are intrinsically motivated to act as well). They are able to achieve a lot for their age…they’re very talented.

Intimacy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2i4AjozHag this clip from Sesame Street is so incredibly simple and funny, it’s perfect for this specific psychological need. In the film it has three steps. There’s a little sad blob. Another blob comes into the picture and gives the sad blob a hug. Then the blob that got a hug is happy and no longer sad. This extension of love and affection that blob 2 reached out and gave to blob 1 was an extension of intimacy. When the two blobs hug they showed reciprocal affection that made them both happy. Clearly a warm and fulfilling feeling was shared between the two blobs and it showed a positive relationship that satisfied blob 1 or perhaps both blobs’ need for intimacy. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXH_2KVT8uY This video is just funny so I thought I’d throw it in for fun and for your grading benefit…it’s called the hug song. Basically is summarizes the need for intimacy by saying that everyone needs a hug regardless of the person or language. It makes you feel good and accepted. This song says that everyone needs a hug that shows some reciprocal affection between people as they show that they care for one another. It’s cute (gets annoying as it goes on so you only really need to listen for the first little bit)

Power: I found clips that show power by searching for films that involve coaches. Athletic coaches are positions of power and in having such power they tend to have methods of reinforcing this power and reminding their players that they are the boss. There is a psychological need in many of us to get and maintain power. Players on the team all struggle for positions of power and influence. Coaches also hope to be influential and motivating to their players. Remember the Titan’s is a film all about power and power struggles. It is not only between blacks and whites but also between the coach and his players. I could choose multiple clips from the video and they would all show power need in some way. In this speech by Coach Boone he tells them that it is not a democracy and that he is the boss. He tells them what’s fun, what’s funny, what to wear, and that they would follow his dictatorship. That is him showing his power and it leads to an incredible influence. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zob1YP4jODA

Affiliation: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVUvQZdBn5I this film is all about how to “fit in” when applying for a job. It tells all of the appropriate and good things to do when wanting to have a good interview. People would follow the rules shown in this video because not only do they desire to get the job, but they also want to fit in with the employer and the business that hopefully hiring. It’s important to gain the approval of others and that is why the advice given in this video may be so helpful for someone who really wants to fit in at a new job and gain the approval of their boss and co-workers. It’s important to follow different social norms and rules to get along well with others. This video is an example of how people may watch things or seek advice when trying to learn how to appropriately affiliate themselves with a specific group.

Terms: Power, Affiliation, intimacy, achievement, intrinsic motivation, extrinsic motivation, reinforcer, motivation, influence, mastery, commitment, approval, warm, fulfilling, reciprocal, affection

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7I7iasuIdw&feature=pyv Inspiration: Powerful beyond Measure (How Great are You?)
Throughout this video the social need of achievement is shown, people are constantly pushing themselves to reach maximum ability. Not only the social need achievement but also the psychological need of competence is being displayed. The type of physical activity which is done here is very physical and the feeling of achievement is very high when being able to complete these varied exercises.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TdkNn3Ei-Lg What’s Going On…
In this clip Jonah Mowry is struggling to be accepted or so it seems. Throughout the clip note cards are presented and through the words and emotions which I see in the clip I think that the need of intimacy is not being fulfilled. I desire for close relationships is what Jonah is struggling to find while growing up. The peer groups are often where we being this formation of intimacy in school, but often times bullying makes it difficult for this to occur. I also think that through this video we can see the lack of affiliation because he is in need of this positive peer relationship but is often rejected through bullying. I understand the difference between affiliation and intimacy but I feel that they strongly interplay with each other with our social needs.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1mjRU6b4ecw Love Hurts- 2011 Doritos Pepsi Max Superbowl Commercial Ad- Finalist
Through this commercial there is a demonstration of power in the relationship. Yes, in the textbook it was said power was not normally displayed in a relationship but here I think it is. The woman was very controlling in the decisions which her partner was making but in the end they come to agreement with the Pepsi Max drink. I mean besides the numerous examples of stereotypes presented in the clip, there is still a display of power.

WTF?

Achievement
This video shows Sir Charles Spencer "Charlie" Chaplin receiving an ‘honorary’ award at the 44th Academy Awards ceremony in 1972. Despite a lifetime of critical and popular acclaim, Chaplin had previously been treated disdainfully by the American Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences (for his scandalous personal life, his political views, and -- perhaps most of all-- for his early disregard for the Academy). Breaking 20 years of exile (originally imposed by J. Edgar Hoover), Chaplin received the longest standing ovation in Academy history (at 12 minutes). He appears to be genuinely moved by the applause: he is at a loss for words, his eyes tear up, and he seems stunned. As he expresses his thanks, he seems to be very sincere and grateful -- not bitter that the recognition for his achievement is so long overdue. Despite everything, the achievement was still important to him.

Charlie Chaplin receiving an Honorary Oscar®
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3Pl-qvA1X8&feature=relmfu

Intimacy
In this scene from Good Will Hunting, Sean (Robin Williams) uses self-disclosure to establish a trusting relationship with Will (Matt Damon). We assume that Sean is speaking of his own personal experiences of pain, love, and loss. We recognize that these are not the kind of stories that we would share with just anyone: they are stories of our vulnerabilities, and we only share them with people we trust. Sean speaks of these intimate relationships not just to build rapport with Will, but also to show him what is missing from his life.

[Great Movie Scenes] Good Will Hunting - Park Scene
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qM-gZintWDc

Power
This clip from Wall Street shows Gordon Gekko addressing the shareholders of Teldar Paper Co. as he pursues a hostile takeover of the company. Gekko speaks of greed as a virtue, arguing that it is the driving force behind all human achievement. His argument seems to be drawn from Nietzsche’s ‘Will to Power’, a philosophical construct used to explain the ‘universal’ drive to achieve or obtain an ever-more advantageous position.

Gordon Gekko "Greed is Good" Full Speech *read the description*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PF_iorX_MAw&feature=related

Affiliation
This video shows a distraught fan at the Clemson vs. Georgia Tech game on 09/10/2009. Like many sports fans, this guy shows a strong emotional entanglement with his team of choice. He is wearing an orange hat and T-shirt, showing his support for the orange and purple of the Clemson Tigers. When his team loses, the boy takes it personally, as though he himself had lost. He hangs his head, holds his head in his hands, throws his hat down, pounds his fists, and sprawls back across the bleachers in despair, as though life has lost all meaning. Being a Clemson supporter is part of his identity: it defines (in part) who he is. Thus he feels a vicarious emotional response to the team’s victories and defeats.

Upset Clemson Fan Overreacting to the Georgia Tech Loss
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0WBmrrRKg-c&feature=related

Terms: self-disclosure, emotional entanglement, identity, recognition, Will to Power