So I was thinking that lately I have been feeling a little frustrated, and getting angry at people that probably don't deserve it. Our textbook tells us that anger is an emotion that many people experience, and arises from restraint, betrayal of trust, being rebuffed, lack of consideration, etc. Anger is also a very passionate emotion, which is why it can come out in some dangerous and uncontrolled ways. So I decided to look up some ways that I could express my anger in a healthier way and share it with all of you. I found an article which provides some good tips which is called Healthy Ways to Deal with Anger and there was some pretty good tips, some I have known about and some that are new to me.
The first tip was to count to ten, and then act. I have been told this tip for as long as I can remember. I just remember being on the playground in elementary school, and seeing kids being pulled aside and being told to count to ten.
The next tips include:
2. Drop your shoulders and take a few breaths.
3. Pummel a pillow or have a scream in your room.
4. Channel your energy into exercise.
5. Distract yourself
6. Get creative (they mentioned writing out your feelings, or some other creative method to release your anger)
All of these tips were for short term anger, however they provided some tips for long term in the article as well.
1. Practice relaxation techniques, like yoga or pilates.
2. Keep talking, Keep listening. Confiding in friends is a really great tool in getting our your anger.
3. Learn how to be assertive, not aggressive.
4. Know yourself. It's important to know what will set you off, and what will cool you down.
I know that some of these tips will help me trigger my anger in a healthier direction, I hope that they will help you as well.
Is there any other techniques that you use to get out your anger? If so, how effective do you think they are?
The first tip was to count to ten, and then act. I have been told this tip for as long as I can remember. I just remember being on the playground in elementary school, and seeing kids being pulled aside and being told to count to ten.
The next tips include:
2. Drop your shoulders and take a few breaths.
3. Pummel a pillow or have a scream in your room.
4. Channel your energy into exercise.
5. Distract yourself
6. Get creative (they mentioned writing out your feelings, or some other creative method to release your anger)
All of these tips were for short term anger, however they provided some tips for long term in the article as well.
1. Practice relaxation techniques, like yoga or pilates.
2. Keep talking, Keep listening. Confiding in friends is a really great tool in getting our your anger.
3. Learn how to be assertive, not aggressive.
4. Know yourself. It's important to know what will set you off, and what will cool you down.
I know that some of these tips will help me trigger my anger in a healthier direction, I hope that they will help you as well.
Is there any other techniques that you use to get out your anger? If so, how effective do you think they are?
I also sometimes tend to let my anger out on other people. I especially tend to let it out on people that tell me to "calm down" or tell me "it's not a big deal" when it obviously is to me. When people belittle my feelings it tends to make me even angrier. I think I most often get angered by lack of consideration from people and betrayal of trust. I don’t tend to yell at anybody to release my anger, I’m just not a very pleasant person to be around when I’m mad about something. My anger tends to linger with me for a long time, even after the event has occurred, I often think and dwell upon it. I have tried the count to ten approach to controlling my anger and sometimes it works, but more often than not it just makes me irritated! I do think that stopping to take a deep breath and reassessing the situation is one of the tools I have used that help me. I think the best piece of advice given here is to be assertive, not aggressive. Fighting or name calling is not going to help any situation so it is best to say what you have to say and leave it at that. I often find that avoiding the situation for awhile can sometimes help. If I’m angry at someone I tend not to talk to them for awhile, just to make sure I don’t say something I regret and it tends to be pretty effective for me!
I found this article very interesting. I like reading information about anger and how to control it because it is such an unpredictable emotion. I also think these tips are very interesting because of how anger works. The real emotion of anger only lasts for about three seconds and the rest of what we feel is somthing we create. It makes me really think about how we create this super intense feeling within ourselves, then to calm it we must also come up with techniques to get rid of that feeling. This post just got me thinking about this interesting balance and I was happy to think about how we control our emotions.